Moving Hell

[create_destiny]

Moving is hell, folks. Especially when strange dogs and cats are forced to live together just because their owners wanna hook-up. One of my cats, Snickers is presently stuck in a wall. Apparently there is a hole in the wall behind the water heater. At 5:00 this morning my boyfriend tried to remove her from this hole in the wall and was promptly hissed at and scratched on the hand, which caused him to call her a bitch, which in turn caused me to cry.

It's not just him calling her a bitch, it's the stress of moving and seeing my cats traumatized and my whole life being turned upside down and I'm not even sure yet if it's for the better. We don't know how to get his dog and my cats to live in peace together so at the moment we are just keeping them separated. I feel like I'm losing my personal space to his dog. I feel trapped, cramped and just as traumatized as my cats.

During one of my emotional meltdowns, the bf offered to give up his dog, but this is not something I could live in peace with. No man should have to give up his dog for a woman.

Any cat & dog co-habitation advise would be appreciated.

Comments

[karmajones.livejournal.com]

My advise is to let them work it out. They will set up a pecking order, (which is usually with the cat dominating the dog) and I'll bet they come to a peaceful treaty. Nikita has had to get used to three dogs at three seperate times, with Benny being the most hyper-annoying dork ever. Nikita will literally reach up and hold Benny's face still between his paws and clean his face-fur. It's cute until I realize that he's holding Benny still with his claws and when he wants to quit cleaning Benny's face you can actually hear each claw popping loose from Benny's skin.
The cat's have found some refuge for now in the wall. Don't force them out, let them come out on their own. And try to discourage the dog from spazzing out when he sees them. Dog's really need to know where they fall in the pack so the dog will look to Dirk for an example to follow. If Dirk lets the dog know that he needs to ignore the cat, he'll loose interest eventually.

Hope that helps.

Give it time, sis. And give yourself time to adjust to everything before you start thinking about if you made the right decision or not. Re-evaluate everything in six weeks. You'll see that things are going much more smoothly and you'll feel better about your decision.

[createdestiny.livejournal.com]

Thanks, hon. I'm feeling better today. The cats came out of the wall for a bit last night.