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[create_destiny]

A friend of mine in Buffalo wrote to me recently, lamenting Cobain's demise. I lamented back. Told him I haven't listened to any Nirvana since 1994. Then a few hours later I'm channel surfing and I stop on Nirvana's "Unplugged in New York." I keep it there. The Boyfriend hears this and asks me from the next room, "Do you still like Nirvana?" And......I can't answer that question with a simple "yes" or "no." I launch into a diatribe about Kurt, the spirit of this age, meat-eating orchids, absurdity and surrealism in art and half way into this I'm shaking and crying. That's not a question that can be answered with a simple yes or no.

Tori Amos singing Nirvana's "Smells Like Teen Spirit"
This haunts me.

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[superhappytime.livejournal.com]

But isn't it a simple question? I mean, that's a Yes. Always a Yes. If you have any doubts, get in your car and play Aneurysm as loud as possible.

Gah, fucking Nirvana. :|

[whosplittheatom.livejournal.com]

I still have such mixed feelings about Kurt Cobain. I practically worshiped him for awhile, and was the hugest Nirvana fan around. Then when he died I was in the midst of my own crisis of crazy numbness, and it didn't really hit me until much later. I very much think he was too sensitive for this world, and the empathetic and sensitive part of me totally relates to that and feels with him, and then the part of me which appreciates the value of toughness is kind of resentful of him for doing such a spineless and escapist thing at the peak of his popularity - not so much out of concern for him, but for the millions of kids who looked up to him. In a certain sense what he did was a horrible abuse of power and position, no better than what government or corporate leaders do, and in some ways worse because he was an artist. What a waste, in so many ways. Part of me wants to say "oh wah, cry me a fucking river Cobain, if you didn't want to get burned then you shouldn't have jumped into the fire; if you knew Earth would be too much for you, you should've stayed on fucking Neptune." But then my own heart goes out to him because I know how it feels to be hurt deeply too, I've just learned how to repress and throw up walls and defense mechanisms for survival purposes - necessary, but not always the healthiest choice.

It's weird, my first conscious defiance of "proper Orthodox practice" was to pray and light candles for him in church up at Platina, even though according to the Canons you're not supposed to pray for suicides.

*shrug* I dunno, man.

Otep did a really awesome cover and video of "Breed" recently, you should check it out: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xlaKJoFomXk

[nightlikeariver.livejournal.com]

i've always loved that cover. i love nirvana, too, but not for such noble artistic reasons. ♥

[somethinghead.livejournal.com]

Interesting timing, because Unplugged in New York has just been released on DVD for the first time. For $12 there is absolutely no reason not to own it.

[mr-ed1966.livejournal.com]

On April 5, 1994, I was delivering my first ever national conference presentation at the annual Popular Culture Association Conference in Chicago. It was on apocalyptic themes in punk rock from 1977-1982. The presentation went over very well. I'd ended it with a nod to the commercial rise of punk-inflected music and mentioned Nirvana specifically. I made the point that I could see, beneath the punk nihilistic pose of the contemporary leaders of the movement, a sense of optimism and fortitude that was lacking in the first wave or two of punk music. Then I went back to my hotel room to unwind a bit and flipped on the tv to learn that Kurt, the fucker, had proved that final point of my presentation so horribly, irrevocably wrong in an act of personal apocalypse. I'm still haunted by that moment.

[metalgypsy.livejournal.com]

I have a lot of compassion for people who commit suicide- it's not something anyone does when they are well enough to think about it, or to think there is anything worse than the hell they are in. That is why it is dangerous to have a gun, because there are a lot of people who will kill themselves before they have time to move past their mental state if they have a gun in their house. I personally never want to know where a gun is accessible.

I used to secretly collect names as a monastic of suicides and pray for them during liturgies- i wish i still had that list- there is one behind the altar in KC and one in Alaska- it had like 50 people on it- a few were friends.

I never got into Kurt Cobain until after he died and i was praying for him as a nun because I was still mad at Nirvana for selling out punk, but that is another story and argument for another time.

[ygolonac.livejournal.com]

Well, if absolute proof surfaced that somebody had murdered Kurt, would that change your feelings towards your memories of Nirvana?

[danieloppermann.livejournal.com]

I just listened to Nirvana for the first time in years yesterday. It wasn't as good as I remember it being.

well

[robin-andersen.livejournal.com]

I came very late to Nirvana, like maybe in the last year or so. But I'm much older than the age bracket that Nirvana was/is popular with, so what can I say - always a day late and a dollar short.
So the answer has to be "yes" if you had such trouble answering it. But it's a much more complicated "yes" now with all the time passage.

As for his death (suicide? even from what little I knew about him at the time of his death, I doubted suicide), it's a terrible tragedy. I used to believe that suicide was an awful thing, the "sin of despair". I still think it's awful and does irrepairable damage to those left behind, but the person who does it must be in such horrific pain that he/she sees no way out. And for that, those people_deserve_ compassion. In their head, there is no "tomorrow will be a better day" or "this will hurt my loved ones". It's just mind numbing soul sucking pain and torture. When you're in that frame of mind....
well, for what it's worth, that's my opinion. I'm no expert. But yeah, I would have liked to see Nirvana still making music now...

your ghosts

[lcurtis.livejournal.com]

Haunting, indeed.

[korolyeva525.livejournal.com]

I don't think I could summarize my feelings on Nirvana in a short way, and certainly not as eloquent as you, but I want to try.

My family is really strict and religious, so I had to pass off bands as being Christian in order to listen to them. Luckily, my parents were kinda stupid, and didn't insist on reading the lyrics to songs, so as long as I could pass the band as "Christian", I could take them home.

Here was my elaborate scheme for getting secular CDs into my house: Go to record store with Mum. Spend a great deal of time in the Christian music section. So long, that she stops paying attention to what I'm doing and goes over and looks at jazz. Now is my time. I randomly pick up N (where N is a rational, whole integer) CDs, and then quickly walk through the Rock aisle on the way to the cash register. As I go through the alphebetically listed secular CDs, I would replace each Christian CD I'd randomly picked up with the one I really intended to buy. I'm sure this wreaked havoc on the record store, but PLEASE UNDERSTAND THAT I WAS FULFILLING A SPIRITUAL NEED. The need for f*cking rock and roll. Out-of-stocks and disorganized CDs were my enemy. It's how I ended up with some REALLY SHITTY CDs, because I'd get to S for Stone Temple Pilots, and they'd be out of "Tiny Music for the Vatican Gift Shop", and I'd have to make my way to the cash register with a "Praizes 4 Him, Hip Hop Reinterpretations" of Hymns CD.

OH THE ANGUISH.

Then, I'd have to DEFEND my "Christian" CD purchases as "Christian enough". I thank Jesus every day for allowing Really Awesome Employees (tm) to be manning the cash register whenever I'd have to stand there with Mum and be like "No, Mum, Oasis is Christian. They're called Oasis, because Jesus Christ is an oasis of hope" and "Mum, I swear, 311 is Christian. It's from John 3:11, which says that 'Verily, verily, I say unto thee, We speak that we do know, and testify that we have seen; and ye receive not our witness'"

Stone Temple Pilots got their name from some passage in the Old Testament about the Temple of Israel. Live got their name because we are dead to ourselves and alive in Jesus Christ. I have no idea how I passed off the bands Pulp, Silverchair, Cake...

Bands I could not pass off as "Christian": Smashing Pumpkins. Garbage. and Nirvana.

I had to rely on my cooler, "less Christian" friends that could listen to secular music. I had to convince them to come over to my house where I had a CD Player/Casette Recorder setup, and that they needed to bring their CD, and then I would copy the CD. Then on the outside, I would write something like "Michael W. Smith 'Go West Young Man'"

DO YOU SEE THE EFFORT???

The point of all this... I had a dream of being able to be myself. Of being able to express myself. Of not having to hide who I was, or my dreams and my goals. Music was my outlet and my hope. It inspired me to do something with my life where I wouldn't have to hide myself forever.

When I heard about Kurt Cobain, I was so angry. I felt like I'd been left alone, and he wasn't going to give me any more music to live for. I couldn't understand, and I was just incredibly sad that he was gone. I suppose it's selfish that my perception of him as an artist revolved around the way he inspired me, but that's all I could comprehend at the time - the thing that I looked forward to most - new music - there'd never be any more from him. I don't think I got over it.